i don't understand why you're angry and bitter... what are you going to a gig for ?? hypothetic privileges or performance ??? imo, i don't care at all about him being nice in ny, and fans being treated like sh*t somewhere else, since he's not the one treating them like sh*t, it's all about security people... and of course, ny is special and he HAS to be uber-nice to "conquer the us"...
anyway, i don't expect either hope any of those treatments in london, as they won't happen, and that's not what i'm going to the gigs for... i just hope he sings, and pretty well if possible...
as for the crowd on stage, the situation is so different !! it depends on the number of people in the venue !!! you can't expect him to do that for exemple in montreal... or even in london, since the crowd is going to be bigger than ny. and these sorts of things are kinda not planned, or i'm a bit naive...
but i'm certain that the official thing will go into people's head and that they'll start expecting things instead of just living the thing... and that's too bad... and that was already the case without the "official" status... they were litterally EXPECTING meets and greets and were disappointed if it wasn't happening... and that's sad !