I support the first part of your post.
But, as for daydreaming, I am fully aware that I am not a good woman for him, and I love may family. So, even if I love him, and admire, and cry sometimes, and fangurling, and feel all the love symptoms, I daydream only about being his friend (I wrote about it at Shrinks). I don't dream about a thing that could offence him. Of course, I'm a frequenter in gasmics, but I usually restrain myself from naughty comments. I admire him to the extent that he shows us himself. without wild imagination
Usually, I have imaginary conversations with him
Or I imagine that I work with him. Before my first gigs, I was visualizing being in the 1 row, what I will say at M&G and so on. If Mika read my mind, I wouldn't be embarrassed. It's not that I'm so prudent. I'm just realistic, and believe in visualization (because it helps!).