RAK1 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 I'm all for free speech, and am a big supporter of constructive criticism, because it can usually draw a good healthy debate. But occasionally good debates can get turned around by some people who have a beef, and feel the need to use the debate to put the knife in. This I find a little disturbing, as we are trying to keep things on a happy vibe here. I know this may come across as a little niave but, I feel you can have a debate without bringing it down into the gutter. And I agree about how the tone of things come across too. When I'm on the phone, like I am now, I find myself being really careful about how I write things, making sure that people don't think I'm being rude or nasty. And I always try to keep my posts a light as possible, so as not to offend. I may not always succeed, but I try. I know recently I caught someone being a little abrasive in a post, and I engaged in a conversation with them, to correct them on their attitude, and it ended quite cordially. So I guess I can be diplomatic, ha ha. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendi Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 If people feel like talking to other forum members it can not be seen as purely a "Moderators being unapproachable" point. Maybe reading posts they feel someone other than a Moderator can understand. I personally have no problem with our Mods, but maybe to those with the problem the Moderators appear to be friendly with the person causing the problem!! I post, with thought for others feelings, and if they don't like what I have posted thats fine - if they think I have been hard, or nasty then I feel they should PM me, or contact someone else to get their opinion. With so many folk, from all countries and cultures, problems are going to arise. We can all agree to disagree - but without being vindictive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FREDDIESDOUBLE Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 If people feel like talking to other forum members it can notbe seen as purely a "Moderators being unapproachable" point. Maybe reading posts they feel someone other than a Moderator can understand. I personally have no problem with our Mods, but maybe to those with the problem the Moderators appear to be friendly with the person causing the problem!! I post, with thought for others feelings, and if they don't like what I have posted thats fine - if they think I have been hard, or nasty then I feel they should PM me, or contact someone else to get their opinion. With so many folk, from all countries and cultures, problems are going to arise. We can all agree to disagree - but without being vindictive. Good point , although the person it goes to should be objective:thumb_yello: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendi Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Good point , although the person it goes to should be objective:thumb_yello: True - but the person approached should also feel they can advise the other person to report it if they feel it warrants it!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinkunicorn123 Posted February 18, 2008 Author Share Posted February 18, 2008 True - but the person approached should also feel they can advise theother person to report it if they feel it warrants it!! The person did and the advice was refused. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Live lounge / heart whaaaaaaaaaaaat? I have had this one for a while now and the one before it was another monty python one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norwalk174 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 That probably has tiny bit to do with me EDIT: Sorry that was mean... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 That probably has tiny bit to do with me But I'm not sure there's a lot of different ways this can be taken.. Yeah that deffinitely was not right to add in there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wendi Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 The person did and the advice was refused. Thats cool - we all do our best to help folk who contact us, but we can not force anyone to do something they dont want to! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norwalk174 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Yeah that deffinitely was not right to add in there. Sorry... I'm in a poopy mood this morning... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinkunicorn123 Posted February 18, 2008 Author Share Posted February 18, 2008 whaaaaaaaaaaaat? I have had this one for a while now and the one before it was another monty python one. It was a still of mika doing Live Lounge with headphones on, sort of orangey with a dashed white line which turned into a heart. Someone make this girl see sense Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Sorry... I'm in a poopy mood this morning... OH NO MEGAN! I didn't mean for YOU to add in there, i ment the thing melanie added in brackets. Deffinitely sends off bad vibes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 It was a still of mika doing Live Lounge with headphones on, sort of orangey with a dashed white line which turned into a heart. Someone make this girl see sense Oh I remember now.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norwalk174 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 OH NO MEGAN! I didn't mean for YOU to add in there, i ment the thing melanie added in brackets. Deffinitely sends off bad vibes. Oh.. well it was kind of mean to put that in here because Melanie just meant for Taylor and I to see it so I deleted that anyways Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Oh.. well it was kind of mean to put that in here because Melanie just meant for Taylor and I to see it so I deleted that anyways Yeah but someone (like me) could take that the wrong way (like me) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fmbm Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Sorry... I'm in a poopy mood this morning... You're not mad at me are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinkunicorn123 Posted February 18, 2008 Author Share Posted February 18, 2008 You're not mad at me are you? I am - No idea why, but i am :furious: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norwalk174 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 You're not mad at me are you? No you were nice Except for the fact that you used that big word that you knew I wouldn't understand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 No you were nice Except for the fact that you used that big word that you knew I wouldn't understand *feels left out* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dcdeb Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Must be a youngling thing debs (no offense)....actually, no it isnt, two people i have spoken today thought i had children!One saying that i must be a mother because i am so understanding and experienced. *Considers starting an anti-wrinkle cream franchise* If people feel like talking to other forum members it can notbe seen as purely a "Moderators being unapproachable" point. Maybe reading posts they feel someone other than a Moderator can understand. I personally have no problem with our Mods, but maybe to those with the problem the Moderators appear to be friendly with the person causing the problem!! Well, I can certainly understand both of these points. If you're younger, you might want to discuss things with someone your own age, sure. And as for what you're saying Wendy -- that may well be true, that someone might feel that we moderators are friendly with the supposed problem poster. That doesn't mean we can't be objective and fair though. At least, I hope it doesn't. I try to be friendly with EVERYONE here. Obviously, I have some closer relationships, but I hope that I haven't been UNfriendly to anyone! Clearly, I'm not against the original point of this thread -- I don't think we ought to tolerate bullying, and I'm a HUGE proponent of "why can't we all get along?" I think you all ought to have seen that by now. But in looking at the accusations made in this thread that such bullying and negativity are WIDESPREAD throughout this forum, and that A LOT of people feel it... well, I have to wonder if the problem is SO huge, why no one feels able to PM a moderator about it. That ought to be the standard procedure, as Diana has posted here: http://www.mikafanclub.com/forums/showthread.php?t=13125 dcdeb Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fmbm Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 No you were nice Except for the fact that you used that big word that you knew I wouldn't understand Hahah ok good. I was being sarcastic 99% of the time (as usual) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norwalk174 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 *feels left out* We had a wee bit of a brawl in the Midway State projects thread last night.. Taylor called Melanie rude because it seemed like she was being a bit snappy and then it all blew up It was really stupid! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
norwalk174 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 Hahah ok good. I was being sarcastic 99% of the time (as usual) I don't even remember what I said as it was very late and I was sleep deprived I really didn't understand the whole yearbook thing though That's where it got really confusing to me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika4Life13 Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 We had a wee bit of a brawl in the Midway State projects thread last night.. Taylor called Melanie rude because it seemed like she was being a bit snappy and then it all blew up It was really stupid! *doesnt want to state opinion* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fmbm Posted February 18, 2008 Share Posted February 18, 2008 *doesnt want to state opinion* chicken Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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