kittycatmikasnumber1fan Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 hi guys. some ofyou might know me. however none of you will know about my self harming. i need help. im depressed and would like some words of support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babspanky Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 I'm sorry to hear that. Do you have anyone in RL you can talk to? I mean, I could give you all the platitudes etc but depression is tough to deal with, there's no doubt about it. The main thing is to keep talking to people, I think. I've tried to read loads of books on the subject, but for me it always just comes down to riding it out, until I feel a bit better. I must admit this forum does help, there are lots of like minded people on here and always someone to chat to, or make you laugh a little. If you are self harming though, you need to get professional help I would say. Have you done this and if not, how would you feel about seeking help? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xBillyBrownx Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 I'm sorry to hear this. I certainly agree that you might want to seek professional help because what we've got to offer might not be enough. I'd also like to add that everything works out in the end, and that some things in life are not meant to be taken too seriously. Just think that in a few years back you'll be looking back at your problems and wondering why you made such a big deal. Just try to take things lightly. And give yourself a chance, don't be too hard on yourself. Whatever it is that's bothering you I'm sure it'll be okay. Everyone gets what they deserve in the end. I hope things work out for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im_stuck_in_the_middle Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 Hi Kitty. As Babs said, you should definetely keep talking to people. Here you can also find a cutting and self-mutilation support forum where cutters and ex-cutters help eachother and give eachother support. Take care Madalena Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycatmikasnumber1fan Posted May 17, 2008 Author Share Posted May 17, 2008 hi guys. i dont want proffecional help. noone knows ecsept mfc people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im_stuck_in_the_middle Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 Look at my last post. I know a site which might help you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sparkly1 Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 Be careful of sites, my friends daughter got worse by going on sites, it ended up like some kind of competition where they would take photos of thier wounds and scars like trophies, she stopped slef harming when she got a girlfriend and now she is left with terrible scars....so just a warning...be very careful, and if it looks like they encourage it then try a different one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im_stuck_in_the_middle Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 Be careful of sites, my friends daughter got worse by going on sites, it ended up like some kind of competition where they would take photos of thier wounds and scars like trophies, she stopped slef harming when she got a girlfriend and now she is left with terrible scars....so just a warning...be very careful, and if it looks like they encourage it then try a different one.That's right. But I know a few from this site, they are quite experienced and wise. And I know there are mods around. But be careful anyway Kitty:wink2: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celien Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I wished I could help you, last year my bf had a similair problem. She didn' tell anyone except me, we talked a lot and it helped. Is there somebody in real life you can talk to? a friend or something? Talking really helps. And maybe this sounds really stupid but this is something that can help (my bf did this): make a box (a shoe box or sth) and decorate it with nice pictures (mika, flowers, your best friends,...) and everytime that there happens a positive thing you write it on a letter and put it in the box (this can be anything: you heard mika on the radio, you ate your favourite food, ...). When you're sad you open the box and read it. I know that it sounds stupid but for some people this helps. Take care! If you need to talk, just ask Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im_stuck_in_the_middle Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 I think Celien's idea sounds great Take care:huglove: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babspanky Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I wished I could help you, last year my bf had a similair problem. She didn' tell anyone except me, we talked a lot and it helped. Is there somebody in real life you can talk to? a friend or something? Talking really helps.And maybe this sounds really stupid but this is something that can help (my bf did this): make a box (a shoe box or sth) and decorate it with nice pictures (mika, flowers, your best friends,...) and everytime that there happens a positive thing you write it on a letter and put it in the box (this can be anything: you heard mika on the radio, you ate your favourite food, ...). When you're sad you open the box and read it. I know that it sounds stupid but for some people this helps. Take care! If you need to talk, just ask What a nice idea. Worth a try? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xBillyBrownx Posted May 17, 2008 Share Posted May 17, 2008 Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I wished I could help you, last year my bf had a similair problem. She didn' tell anyone except me, we talked a lot and it helped. Is there somebody in real life you can talk to? a friend or something? Talking really helps.And maybe this sounds really stupid but this is something that can help (my bf did this): make a box (a shoe box or sth) and decorate it with nice pictures (mika, flowers, your best friends,...) and everytime that there happens a positive thing you write it on a letter and put it in the box (this can be anything: you heard mika on the radio, you ate your favourite food, ...). When you're sad you open the box and read it. I know that it sounds stupid but for some people this helps. Take care! If you need to talk, just ask Great idea! Would you be willing to try that Kitty? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycatmikasnumber1fan Posted May 18, 2008 Author Share Posted May 18, 2008 i dont realy want to tell my friends. im looked on as the person who solves evaryone elses problems for them. i dont wanna look weak infront of them, it might stop them wantin to be my friend.and celien thats a realy awsome idea. but what if my mom found the box? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happikali Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 i dont realy want to tell my friends. im looked on as the person who solves evaryone elses problems for them. i dont wanna look weak infront of them, it might stop them wantin to be my friend.and celien thats a realy awsome idea. but what if my mom found the box? I'm sad for you to hear this too Kitty .... & GOOD ON YOU for reaching out !! I think Celien's box idea is great .... (gonna start one myself ... ) .... & IF your mum finds the box ..... she will only find POSITIVE things !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycatmikasnumber1fan Posted May 18, 2008 Author Share Posted May 18, 2008 I'm sad for you to hear this too Kitty .... & GOOD ON YOU for reaching out !! I think Celien's box idea is great .... (gonna start one myself ... ) .... & IF your mum finds the box ..... she will only find POSITIVE things !! yes but she will know somethings up. she has seen the scrathches and cuts on my arm( i told her it was the cat) but she is still noseing about. brings it into the convosation whenever possable Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happikali Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 yes but she will know somethings up. she has seen the scrathches and cuts on my arm( i told her it was the cat) but she is still noseing about. brings it into the convosation whenever possable Hhhhhmmm .... well, I am a mama too ... my daughter is 23 now ... .... & about 5 years ago , I had an HORRIFIC dream about her cutting herself .... it scared me so much that I had to tell her about the dream ... she was NOT cutting herself .... BUT we had a great chat about this sort of thing ... she sometimes gets depressed too, as I have .... & I dunno if you feel like you can talk to your mum ... ( sounds like you don't feel you can ) ... but if she is bringing it into conversation whenever possible ... she is obviously concerned ... In Australia, we have a phone line we can call, called LifeLine ... where you can talk to trained counsellors & ask questions ... they are very kind & understanding .... it is all free ... & they give you as much time as you need .... it is anonymous & they never ask for your personal details ... is there a phoneline you can call like that in England ?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycatmikasnumber1fan Posted May 18, 2008 Author Share Posted May 18, 2008 Hhhhhmmm .... well, I am a mama too ... my daughter is 23 now ... .... & about 5 years ago , I had an HORRIFIC dream about her cutting herself .... it scared me so much that I had to tell her about the dream ... she was NOT cutting herself .... BUT we had a great chat about this sort of thing ... she sometimes gets depressed too, as I have .... & I dunno if you feel like you can talk to your mum ... ( sounds like you don't feel you can ) ... but if she is bringing it into conversation whenever possible ... she is obviously concerned ... In Australia, we have a phone line we can call, called LifeLine ... where you can talk to trained counsellors & ask questions ... they are very kind & understanding .... it is all free ... & they give you as much time as you need .... it is anonymous & they never ask for your personal details ... is there a phoneline you can call like that in England ?? we have a thing called child line. but tats connected to social serveses and i wouldnt touch them as far as i could throw them. it's not that i wouldnt tell my mom. but she has other problems to contend with. my brotheres are severly autistic. one acts younger for his age and the other wont look at people in the eye. she is worryed about them so i dont want her upset even more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celien Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 i dont realy want to tell my friends. im looked on as the person who solves evaryone elses problems for them. i dont wanna look weak infront of them, it might stop them wantin to be my friend.and celien thats a realy awsome idea. but what if my mom found the box? Like happikali says: IF she finds the box, she'll only find POSITIVE things! But is there not a place where you can hide it? And if you write PRIVATE on it? I mean, my mother wouldn't look in it than, but I don't know how your mother is of course ... :s. But I don't think that the box means that there's somethings up, it's just a box with good memories... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycatmikasnumber1fan Posted May 18, 2008 Author Share Posted May 18, 2008 Like happikali says: IF she finds the box, she'll only find POSITIVE things! But is there not a place where you can hide it? And if you write PRIVATE on it? I mean, my mother wouldn't look in it than, but I don't know how your mother is of course ... :s. But I don't think that the box means that there's somethings up, it's just a box with good memories... if my mom thinks there is something up she would look in evary available place to find how to solve it. my rom is normal. if she found a box with happy stuff in she would wanna know why Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika Freaka =) Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 i dont realy want to tell my friends. im looked on as the person who solves evaryone elses problems for them. i dont wanna look weak infront of them, it might stop them wantin to be my friend.and celien thats a realy awsome idea. but what if my mom found the box? hey hun, this is quite serious and i understand if you dont want anyone to know about it... well chatting on the forums could be a good idea because we dont know you in person. I just wouldnt want you to harm yourself or resort to drugs etc... you can find a way through this, and il help in any way PM me if you want:wink2: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycatmikasnumber1fan Posted May 18, 2008 Author Share Posted May 18, 2008 hey hun, this is quite serious and i understand if you dont want anyone to know about it... well chatting on the forums could be a good idea because we dont know you in person.I just wouldnt want you to harm yourself or resort to drugs etc... you can find a way through this, and il help in any way PM me if you want:wink2: ah i would never do drugs. i am self harming if you saw the start of the thred. and thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mika Freaka =) Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 ah i would never do drugs. i am self harming if you saw the start of the thred. and thanks I didnt mean to offend you in any way, i was just saying and pleasure, hope things get better:thumb_yello: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celien Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 if my mom thinks there is something up she would look in evary available place to find how to solve it. my rom is normal. if she found a box with happy stuff in she would wanna know why Oh, I'm sorry to hear that... The box was just an idea... I think talking here on the forum is a good idea you don't know us personal so the step to talk to us is of course smaller... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kittycatmikasnumber1fan Posted May 18, 2008 Author Share Posted May 18, 2008 I didnt mean to offend you in any way, i was just saying and pleasure, hope things get better:thumb_yello: i know you didn't mean to offend me. i hope i diddnt come across that way celien it is easyer to talk to people here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkLight Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 aww I'm sorry to hear that It sounds like you must be going through a difficult time to wanna self harm, I myself have been through an incredibly dificult life & still suffer depression & have been suicidal if you feel you wanna chat to someone then pm me I'm always here for anyone having a difficult time to chat to if you wanna & btw my dad suffers a form of autism known as asperger syndrome which is difficult to deal with believe me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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